I’ve been on ADHD meds twice before now and I can confirm that the euphoria, “everything is amazing” feeling wears off after the first week or so, but the ability to relax and focus never go away, and that’s what I was referring to.

Probably between a 4 and a 5. I have a running half-joke with some of my friends that I’m the only femboy who is actually a woman. Half joke because it’s rediculous but also it’s kind of how I actually feel.

I’ve been writing a book, just finished the first draft a week or two ago. And now I have ADHD meds and have found myself able to write dramatically more per day and of a higher quality. I’m gonna say writing my second draft is gonna be my big goal for the week. I won’t finish it all in a week, it’s a long book and will take a while to finish, but if I can make really good progress, I’ll be happy with myself.

lol, I suppose that is true.

I in general tend to feel pretty included, but it’s shocking how many cis LGBT people think they can reclaim trans slurs and try to explain to me why it’s actually okay that the called me a trap or a tranny because they’re reclaiming it. Like, even if you heard a trans person use a slur to describe themself, please, do not call me that. (I wanna be clear, not talking about this community, happens mostly IRL.)
In general it’s pretty common to feel like people are trying to be inclusive, which is nice, but my god cis people just can’t help talking over trans people about trans issues.

I don’t see any pinned posts in this community, accessing with lemmy.zip through the alexandrite interface. Nor do I see them via the Connect android app through the same instance.

At least I get to watch them fly into my blocklist like mosquitos into a bug zapper lol

Honestly, it makes my day to hear that. Thanks. I don’t always like to think anything good could possibly have come from living through that, but it’s also good to know I’m not completely broken as a result.

Ah, and I just remembered something I wanted to add on. One thing my dad did do right when I was a kid is he refused to enforce traditional gender roles. I’m trans and in spite of him not supporting that specifically, he did let me have a doll house, have my hair long, let me try makeup, etc. Because of that once I grew up, I found myself mystified when I realized that gender roles were even a thing, and wondered why anything had to be gender specific in the first place.

I’m probably gonna have to go with the reason my mom gave me the nickname “little lawyer” as a kid. My dad was awful. Did a lot of things I don’t care to talk about. He was a very angry person, and as a result I learned some very strong conflict resolution skills. On top of that, as an autistic, I have a very strong obsession with making sure everything’s fair. I noticed he wasn’t treating me or my mom fairly (understatement of the year) and managed to negotiate better conditions by pointing out when he wasn’t following his own rules, or was inconsistently enforcing the rules.

Granted, an abusive person is gonna be abusive regardless of the rules, but my dad specifically used the rules he set as a tool to control, so breaking them in half in ways he didn’t like meant he had less control. He would especially use the bible as his biggest tool, interpreting it in whatever way most benefited him, and I would find holes in his interpretation and propose different interpretations.

I do want to note, my dad has received a lot of help since my childhood and made strides to being a better person, especially after seeing my mom, me, and my older sibling leave him. I’ve talked to him pretty recently and he does genuinely seem to have improved a lot, but I’m staying wary.

Nowadays people come to me for all kinds of things of the nature of resolving disputes, and even I often have people come to me to help resolve relationship troubles (from “me and my partner had a disagreement” to “I think I’m being emotionally abused and don’t know how to handle it.”) Although I have a bad habit of doing that even when I’m not asked, which people often get pissed at me for quite often. I’m working on that.

I’d probably go with black nylon thigh high stockings, a garter belt, red flannel skirt, and a long sleeve black ribbed top.

This might sound weird, but taking no for an answer. Might wonder why I care if I already said no, but one of my partners I wasn’t into until I said “no” and they were like “alright” and didn’t bother me again, until months later when I asked them out instead. Something about knowing somebody has basic levels of respect has a way of changing my mind.
And a note for all guys reading this, that does not mean you should expect anything because you respected a no. If you’re expecting any reward, you did not, in fact, respect the no.

Happy to see things moving to a safer place. Already subscribed 😀

I got accused of that once for simply saying I didn’t feel welcome on Lemmy as a woman.

Actually, that’s putting it lightly. What they said was a multi paragraph tirade attempting to trigger every trauma I had or might have explicitly because they thought “unwelcome” was still too welcome and, again explicitly stated by them, they thought women should suffer.

To be fair, they were downvoted to hell then banned for what they said, but in the same thread somebody accused me of being too extreme because I said I support job fairs for women, and they were very much the opposite of downvoted.

It seems to mostly be isolated to online spaces though. I bring up these “extremist” feminist topics IRL and people act like it was so obvious I didn’t even need to say it, even men.