

I have an invisible disability. Half of my problems are people assuming I can do the things I can’t.
The other half are those same people trying to help me with the things I excel at while being much worse than me at those things and thinking they’re helping.
If you want to know how to help a disabled person, just ask them. They usually understand their own disability pretty well.
It does take a little practice to know when to ask if someone needs help. Generally if someone needs help in public then they’ll bring a friend or family member to help them.
That being said, it’s always better to ask than assume. Never push someone’s wheelchair (particularly into a road without checking for cars, yes this has happened to people) unless you’ve offered assistance and the person has said yes.
Personally, I’d rather have someone friendly ask how I’m doing and leave it at that if I say “fine”. I may not need or want help, but it’s nice to be reminded that people care.