yes it’s very likely to either get torn apart by interpersonal tensions such as infidelities or economic power struggles or just devolve into a new age cult of some kind, and usually some combination of all three from what I’ve seen of those kinds of communities.
working in psychiatry for as long as I’ve had, the people I admire most are actually the ones who are just decent every single day. the ones who know everybody’s kids names and remember everybody’s birthday. I don’t know how they do it. I became the person who helps pull apart people trying to bite each other’s faces off because idk how to remember birthdays and I was hoping it would be something people appreciate but day to day it actually really isn’t and the reason why becomes obvious pretty quickly. the people who make the biggest difference in people’s mental health are people who know how to plan a good Friday night get-together and how to follow up when they haven’t heard from one of the invitees for two weeks in a row.
I have borderline personality and premenstrual dysphoric disorder. I was so unmanageable as a teenager (and twice a month since my cycle was coming every two weeks) that my fundie parents put me on birth control at 14 years old.
also helps to plan difficult conversations if it’s something that can wait a few days or that could wait a week but you know you need to do it sooner rather than at the end of the week when she won’t be able to respond as charitably. me and my husband keep track of each other’s hypomanias and depressions for similar reasons.
I think we should make all work legal for the worker. They can be here, they can receive wages, their kids go to school. as As long as they don’t commit any crimes just let them exist, whatever.
…but hiring someone without a visa should be extremely illegal. Like decades in prison illegal. Should fix the rampant human trafficking pretty quickly. A lot of these employers do it because they don’t have to worry about treating the workers fairly. They should be terrified of illegal workers telling on them. And after they’re done telling on one human trafficker let them go find another job and tell on him too. If we were tossing people in prison for hiring illegal immigrants their job market would dry up immediately and the problem would resolve very quickly.
people need to think more about who is actually benefiting from illegal immigration and go after those people. because it’s not some lower than minimum wage laborer, it’s his employer who found someone who’s too scared to tell OSHA that the sharps bin is overflowing and APS that meemaw has been sitting in her own shit for three days. Immigrants aren’t taking my job, sketchy employers are trafficking human beings in who are willing to be paid less while being abused and who will be too scared to say anything about the really scary shit they’re being made to do and watch.
I mean it was genuinely good sex advice the best saliva to use as blowjob lube is 100% the thicker mucus from the back of the nasopharynx vs the thinner saliva generally produced by the mouth. And unlike most popular sex advice it’s not advising anything even remotely dangerous it’s genuinely just a solid point of expert blowjob technique.
Also, psych nurse protip - this is how you use this to talk someone out of a panic attack. Use the above conversation template plus the following nonverbals / paraverbals:
start by reducing stimuli (think five senses!). Reduce the noise and lights, and try to get away from any particularly offensive smells or sensations.
you can try to get the crowds and stimuli out of the area, but it will probably be easier to move the person panicking. Getting crowds of people to do things is very tricky. It’s usually just easier to move the one person.
talk at about half to a quarter of your usual speed and volume
use common English words (no SAT vocab). Enunciate clearly, and don’t use more than one conjunction / more than two ideas per sentence. Their brain can’t chew / digest as much as all at once.
Do not stand directly in front of them and especially do not corner them. If you feel unsafe you can still stay closer to the door than they are but try to stand slightly to the side to give them line of sight to it.
if you want to practice / really up your game, learn to deepen your pitch slightly / resonate / speak from your chest while still keeping your volume down. Imagine James Earl Jones reading a meditation script on YouTube. This has an added benefit if you work with seniors, most age-related hearing loss is in the upper pitch ranges.
months. hang on Mom is trying to make me eat peas.
Oh John dies at the end is in my top ten all time favorites possibly even #1 and I don’t even like horror.