They should be fucking arrested for wasting Wagyu beef in a chili.

I mean, that’s how it used to be when I was growing up.

The fact that “how it used to be” in your childhood produced a scumbag like you is a compelling argument to not let people’s childhoods be like that anymore.

I think you’re very pretty - especially naked.

Something I’ve learned about compliments, in general, is to be specific. Like, even outside of the nudity, just “I think you’re very pretty” is rather a poor compliment. Leaving it open-ended like that plays into what others have said in this thread, that it can be interpreted negatively.

In this case, the obvious alternative in my mind is “I really like your tattoos.” That even opens up the opportunity for a conversation about how she got them and what they mean to her. You could could also complement her hair, as you mentioned you appreciated that as well.

asked her if she’d allow me to explain my obvious fuck-up

This is a very natural reaction on your part, and comes from a good place: you’ve recognized that you’ve caused someone pain/harm, and want to help alleviate it. Unfortunately, when it comes to topics where sexuality is involved, I don’t think there’s any scenario where it helps. Not unless they come to you seeking an apology/explanation. The most helpful thing for most people, in this scenario, is to have a little contact as possible with the person who made them uncomfortable. Even if you’re being genuine about this, most people aren’t.

I tried to explain to X again that I wasn’t sexualising her in any way

I think this is especially not going to help, because it’s not an apology. A real, genuine apology for a situation like this involves you recognizing that you did, in fact, do wrong to someone (which, again, in this case, I think you do recognize), so an apology HAS to focus on that.

For me, a true apology has to consist of 3 things:

• Contrition (I.E. “I’m sorry”)
• Understanding (what you did that was wrong, and how it was wrong)
• Amends (what/how you’re going to do better in the future)

Focusing on explaining your side of the story screws up the “understanding” part. It makes it about what SHE did wrong (“you reacted without knowing the full story”) instead of what YOU did wrong (“I didn’t consider that my words would make you uncomfortable”). Alternatively, it’s “you shouldn’t be feeling this way, because you don’t know the whole story” instead of “I shouldn’t have made you feel this way”. Even though that’s not what you meant to say, that’s an entirely understandable way to interpret it.

Explaining your side of the story can still be part of this, but it comes under the “Amends” category. I.E. “I wasn’t trying to sexualize you, so I need to work on avoiding sexualizing language” or “I need to work on choosing my words more carefully, I should be able to compliment someone without it coming off as a sexual thing.”

Anyway, that’s just my 2 cents. If everything you’ve told us is accurate, I think you’re genuinely a fine person, and you just need to file this one away as a learning experience, the best you can. Nothing more to be done about it now.

What’d you have for dinner?

A) And yet, not long after, Andor was massively successful.

B) Then stop making games exclusively based off of third party IPs.

These days, mostly for reddit mirror bots.

I dunno what people’s obsession is with Lululemon, and I really don’t care, but that fucking bot alone is like 5% of lemmy/all, these days.

In theory, that’s what the control questions are for. You start with questions where the examiner knows the subject isn’t lying, to establish a baseline, and lies are only determined by identifying deviations from that.

Still a debunked technology, at the end of the day. There"s too many assumptions still baked into tbe premise, and too many inaccuracies in the tech.

Yup.

As awful as it is, YouTube’s disdain for its viewers isn’t really the big dealbreaker for me. It’s their disdain for their content creators. If creators were treated like first-class citizens as much as ad sellers and copyright holders holders are, I’d absolutely subscribe to Premium. Creators get three strikes, but copyright trolls can submit as many bogus claims as they want. Ad companies get to dictate what videos their ads can and can’t appear on, but creators have to put up with whatever ads YouTube decides should run on their videos. All this despite creators being far more critical to YouTube’s success than ads.

• Always check the Subscriptions page first
• Check Watch Later list, after that
• scroll the Home page, after that

Have never seen a link to a “Trending” page or a “Trending Now” list in any of those spots.

I’m not really sure that being open source here means much of anything, but an SO alternative definitely sounds good. Thanks for the tip.

Use of AI (actually Machine Learning) in the medical field has been going on for a LONG time, and has nothing to do with the recent explosion of mostly-useless LLMs. And even if this weren’t the case, the way some technology was developed kinda doesn’t matter a whole lot when it’s going to be put through a rigorous testing process to determine it’s actual efficacy. Which is what this article is talking about: taking a drug that’s already gone through a bunch of non-human testing and moving to the next step.

I know the US government is doing its damndest to dismantle safety regulations, avross all industries, but I don’t think we’re quite at the point that we should be alarmed at new possible cancer treatments.

Sounds loke she found the line for being a fall guy that she wasn’t willing to cross.

Not that anyone really believed Elon isn’t calling all the shots here.

I don’t do budgeting, per-se. For personal expenses, the idea of pre-planning everything we’re going to spend just seems like overkill. Maybe that’s just cause we’re not close enough to the poverty line for real financial hardship. But I find a reactive approach works well, rather than proactive.

I keep an accounting ledger that I update every 1-2 weeks. The ledger is just a big Excel (actually LibreOffice Calc) file that I setup with some formulas and pie charts to make it easy to see when expenses are outpacing income, and what our biggest expenses are if we need to cut down for a while (spoilers: it’s utilities and food).

I’ve tried a handful of different free accounting applications in the past, but never found one I liked for the above purposes. I ended up starting a project to make my own, like a year ago, but I haven’t gotten around to finishing it. The spreadsheet approach has been working well enough. All the custom app would do is help automate the data entry.

Bacon Cheeseburger.

I re-watched the movie a few months ago, and I had a similar realization: it was quite depressing to see a depiction of NASA that is now entirely lost to us.

I should also put my normal caveat in here about not actually buying one of these. Please, please don’t try to buy one of these awesome cargo e-trikes. This is a silly, tongue-in-cheek weekend column where I scour the ever-entertaining underbelly of China’s massive e-commerce site Alibaba in search of fun, quirky, and just plain awesomely weird electric vehicles.

Essentially, it’s satire.

Almost half of voters said they are likely to support a new political party proposed by Tesla CEO Elon Musk, according to fresh polling.

Horseshit. No way is Elon’s popularity that high, after he so effectively alienated himself from both US parties. I’m guessing the poll just asked about supporting A third party, not Elon’s third party.

Give it some time.

Dude, you obviously have never set FOOT on a farm or tractor, in your LIFE. Stop spreading misinformation.

These are raw marshmallows. Yeah, it’s unbelievable how big they are, but that’s just cause they’re fresh and haven’t dried out yet.