Or brownies

Hope you are doing ok

Deck you? She could have shot you or had you arrested. You illegally assaulted her. Period.

I 100% understand you never learned to keep your hands to yourself due to shitty parents and your own belief system.

It isn’t a human connection.

They are mourning the loss of having a tool reflect their deepest psychological desires back at them.

if I was wasn’t the person she called to come over when she was scared at night and wasn’t her flatmate for a year before this event. At the time she was a sister to me and my SO and watching her not listen to basic safety was frustrating.

This is you describing codependency. This is not typical of all relationships, just codependent ones.

You wanted her to be scared of you. Not all men, but you. And if she’s scared of you, you think she will be under your control. Because you think it’s okay for men to seize bodily autonomy from women. I’m going to guess you have stupid ideas about child support, abortion, and marriage too.

What you’re saying is in “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft. Nothing new, nothing interesting, just justifications for why you give yourself permission to harm others.

Being familiar to her makes you MORE likely to abuse her, which is exactly what you did. Again, legally, you could be arrested for assault, battery, and possibly she could’ve legally killed you (if you had done that to me, you would be dead immediately FYI). That’s how clear the law is that what you did was wrong - you could have died over this and no one would’ve been on your side.

Okay thank you

Lol, sure

Okay, I accept you won’t see eye to eye with me and have an obvious commitment to lying and misunderstanding. I and the rest of the Lemmy community will continue to use liberal and leftist this way. I think you are projecting a lot, to various boring and comedic effect.

Codependency isn’t an excuse to assault someone.

I don’t hurt my sisters. “Like a sister” - you attacked her. Not only could you be charged with a crime, she also could completely reasonably use legal lethal force against you in that scenario in many states. FYI most killers are known to their victims beforehand, so that you know her actually makes you more likely to kill her compared to a stranger.

You just don’t want to let go of abusing others so you are making excuses.

You literally told me to “stop believing in the sky daddy” in reference to “who knows, the government isn’t even denying it anymore, there could be something out there.”

No, and get checked for a gas leak. I told you there was no sky daddy in reference to REP LUNA and MAGA, which the PARENT COMMENT was about and thread was about - GOP lies. The govt officials pushing this that are GOP aren’t trustworthy. “The government isn’t denying it anymore,” only SOME of them and it’s people like Gaetz and Luna lol. The government part is key here lol.

But stick to your victim narrative, it’s obviously helping you think clearly

Lol I accept your loss

Everyone deserves housing. This is something ants and bees have mastered. I am as good as an ant - ofc I think you can have free housing

Try a good faith argument

Thank you! I have thought about this topic a lot because of many homeless people, former foster kids, former adopted kids, and former abused kids I have spoken with.

Most kids are fine being around even shitty caregivers. It takes a LOT for a kid to even desire to want to leave, and when we factor in legal consequences for their parents and the legal process, they are not able to leave, and their parents have reasons to block it. If we just had apartments for them that they could go to, no judgement, no hassle, no worries that they will send their mom and dad to jail for 10 years, it would prevent a lot of pain. And ofc they can always deal with the legal stuff later if they want to. Asking an abused kid actively being abused to make these huge legal decisions to escape abuse is too much, they should be able to just leave safely - and return safely per their own judgement.

“The Rise and Fall of the Neoliberal Order: America and the World in the Free Market Era”

https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/2022/05/06/how-neoliberal-order-triumphed-why-its-now-crumbling/

The neoliberal order was no exception. Despite being a project incubated in Republican circles and launched under Ronald Reagan, its full-scale consolidation occurred under the Democratic presidency of Bill Clinton in the 1990s.

Imo the neoliberal order was a response to the Civil Rights Era, a WORLDWIDE movement that gave ordinary citizens more rights and power than any other time in history. To disempower them, capitalism was weaponized to create neoliberal policies to make poor people stay poor, without capital, and thus powerless.

But it was not until Reagan that neoliberalism actively shaped the policy agenda of the federal government. Deregulation became the mantra of the decade, its most visible manifestation being the assault on collective bargaining and the further weakening of already struggling unions. Progressive taxation was contested ideologically and dismantled politically: When Reagan was elected, the income tax system was structured in 15 different brackets, with the highest reaching 70 percent; after his presidency, the country was left with just two brackets, 15 and 28 percent.

"Neoliberals,” Gerstle writes, “had long argued for the need to ringfence free markets, limiting participation to those who could handle its rigors.” Now they also embraced a religiously imbued neo-Victorian moral code, setting themselves in opposition to the permissiveness and moral relativism of the 1960s and 1970s. The race-biased mass incarceration of an “underclass” — regarded as unfit to handle those rigors — seemed to offer the ultimate solution. Liberation and repression, freedom and order, were not incompatible; in the neoliberal equation they were strictly interdependent.

https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/92993192-the-rise-and-fall-of-the-neoliberal-order-america-and-the-world-in-the

A political order must have the ability to shape the core ideas of political life. It must be able to do so not just for one political party’s most ardent supporters but for people located across the political spectrum. The New Deal order sold a large majority of Americans on the proposition that a strong central state could manage a dynamic but dangerous capitalist economy in the public interest. The neoliberal order persuaded a large majority of Americans that free markets would unleash capitalism from unnecessary state controls and spread prosperity and personal freedom throughout the ranks of Americans and then throughout the world. Neither of these propositions today commands the support or authority that they once possessed. Political disorder and dysfunction reign. What comes next is the most important question in the United States, and the world, now face.

Capitalism has already killed us all. https://www.ecowatch.com/planetary-boundaries-ocean-acidification-climate-science.html

Murdering the entire planet’s megafauna for capital is, well, not leftist.

Side conversation but the homeless’s societal role as witnesses and helpers is a major part of why fascists want to get rid of them. I literally feel safer walking by myself if there’s visible campers nearby than if the street is totally empty. Many really do see a lot and help a lot.

The world isn’t safe, and acknowledging that reality (including frequency, ie if it really isn’t often) means we can thoughtfully address it. Yeah for a kid being SA’d at home, being outside is indeed safer for the most part, but it isn’t completely safe. I often still get harassed as an adult woman by random men - idk how they would treat a lone little girl if they are approaching my mean ass like that. Further, I was groped by thousands, literally thousands, of strangers as a kid, particularly in lines and crowds. It’s a LOT of people who molest kids.

Fascists will use ANY excuse to enact fascism though, it’s not the fault of people identifying and describing danger. Fascists are narcissists working together, and their type of fascism is what gives them narcissistic supply. Narcissistic supply is essentially a drug addiction, something they compulsively seek out.

Children are legally a type of slave in the US, usually of their parents or guardians but sometimes of their spouse or the state. Of course this isn’t explicitly called slavery like the 13th amendment, but when we look at their rights, we can see it’s indeed how the legal process works for them. Addressing and reversing this would go a long way for abolitionism. Kids are almost never granted more power for themselves or more freedoms. Most “for the children” rhetoric tends to advocate for removing even more of their freedoms and power. It’s really really sad.

You are legally allowed to physically harm your child “within reason” (aka stopping short of whatever the law defines as child abuse in a jurisdiction). You are allowed to starve them a little, “within reason.” You can deny them any privileges you want and lock them in your house - “within reason.”

If the kid calls the police and it’s not obvious child abuse that could result in death, the police inform the kid that parents can do as they please with their children for discipline and they leave the kids with those parents.

You can deny medical care (including abortions and birth control) - “within reason.” You can force them to go to institutions and educational facilities.

Kids work and guess who legally can access their paychecks and all their money? Their parents/owners (see: Honey Boo Boo’s finances, Aaron Carter’s finances with his parents). Parents can and do withhold capital and money from their children to coerce behaviors from them. Kids work and pay income tax, yet cannot vote or run for office.

Parents can allow them to be married in MANY US states. An adult having sexual relations with their spouse who is a minor is EXEMPT from statutory rape laws (and let’s acknowledge the human trafficking element of this). A child in a marriage contract often then belongs to their spouse instead of their parent and must similarly ask their spouse for help and permission. Because marriage contracts are contracts, kids have a hard time divorcing as minors due to this, let alone accessing legal representation itself.

Kids have almost no capital or power by design. Until kids can get rights, this country will be fucked up. We cannot raise humans in a slave environment and then expect them to not have learned helplessness and issues. Kids should be able to emancipate themselves immediately and easily to live in their own apartment with social workers (wearing bodycams, subject to randim audit or audit based on reports) who check on them as appropriate for their age. Parents should have VERY limited rights to their children compared to present day, and CHILDREN instead should be granted rights to their parents which they can waive, or be compensated for if the parent is unable to fulfill their obligations. Obviously child marriage should be illegal.

Children should NOT be their parent’s property. Children should belong to themselves.

This would also help with fostering/“adoption”, which is kinda human trafficking (and I’ve had family be adopted, so I am familiar that the adoptive parents don’t see it like this) and which trades the child around like they have no rights at all and like they are property. If a child had rights to their birth parents (or to emancipate themselves), they can then leave bad adoptive parents.

The entire adoption system is actually wild if you think about it - eg antiabortion clinics convince poor women to adopt out through a sister agency which explicitly is also Christian and adopts these kids into Christian homes (a requirement by the agency). The adoptive parents pay the agency, which takes a cut of that money and then gives a little to the birth mom for medical expenses. It’s just converting children to Christianity (often white Christians taking Native American/Latino indigenous American’s babies) via making everyone poor, not giving the bio parents or child charity directly, and denying medical access unless they sell their kid.

Give children rights.

Also, giving kids the right to vote would be a start in the right direction. No taxation without representation, and we have child actors and performers paying millions in taxes. They deserve representation. Maybe they’d vote to change the laws so their parents (owners) weren’t legally entitled to their money or bodies.

Bonus policy idea regarding education: https://lemmy.world/post/19553029/12277181

China, India, Iran, and the rest of BRICS would retaliate hard. Russia is doing this with BRICS, as an agent of BRICS. That’s part of why this war is being toed so carefully, because it is much, much bigger than Ukraine and Russia.

You need plausible deniability and proximity to get away with abuse of kids, and parents have the most of both.

However, I was groped thousands of times as a kid in lines by strangers. And I mean THOUSANDS. To this day I do not like strangers standing behind me.

I was almost nearly abducted off the street as a kid.

So yes, strangers can still be an issue, even if parents and other people with more proximity are more often the bigger issue.

Eh idk, I was nearly snatched off the street by a stranger, very similar to the Morgan Nick case, back in 1998. Virtually every park in the US has creeps patrolling it looking for homeless, especially kids. See Emily Perez case - she ran away to a local park and was taken from there by an unknown person who likely monitors the park for such things.

World isn’t as safe as you’d think.