You just gave me the biggest flashback to a comic made by Endling.

What a blast from the past.

I have been here for a few months and Lemmy is gonna disappoint you too, my friend.

As a Dane, I have always been fucking shocked at the slave-like working conditions Americans work under. They barely get any time off as it is. What do you mean too many holidays?

To me Wilson will always be a bloody handprint on a ball, slowly drifting away from a weeping Tom Hanks. Any bad Wilson out there is neutralized by ball boy’s goodness.

The weirdest part is that they are all concieved through IVF and all of them are biologically male, so it isn’t even a sex thing for him.

Dude is so fucking weird. Like alien levels of weird. The more you look into his past the weirder it gets.

My boyfriend and I both struggle with this lol. I had a few books I had borrowed from a friend that I wanted to give back. For months I would be like “oh I need to give them back!” Whenever I looked at my shelf. Then one day I finally put the books in a neat little canvas bag and put them next to my favourite chair because it would be easy to grab and bring with me to work the next day.

One year later I put the books back on the shelf. My friend is chill about it. Hasn’t even asked for them back. He has a few of my things too, that he has kept for years so we have mutual understanding.

My boyfriend has a few very specific hobbies that he tend to work on and then leave lying around without putting them away for months. I do that too, tbf. We just deal with each other’s weirdness.

The only thing I can think of is the dunning Kruger effect vs imposter syndrome but I don’t think they are accurate in this case.

Because Dunning Kruger is more like when you learn about something new and become overly confident about it while people who are expert in the area are more aware of the complexity of the topic and how much thet don’t know. Dunning Kruger is not necessarily about being dumb and arrogant, but more so a step in learning that tends to be a bit embarrassing in hindsight. I have definitely been there and I have had several students when they are close to graduating their degree act like they understand our industry better than I or my colleagues do. Which is okay because you probably need that confidence when you start out haha.

And imposter syndrome also doesn’t really fit with it either, as it’s more about feeling like a fraud in your field even if you probably aren’t.

There probably are much better terms to explain what you’re describing, but that’s the best I can come up with haha.

I thought the omega thing was a myth that has been debunked, though? Pretty sure Dr. Russell Barkley has said several times that there are no supplements that has any real effect on ADHD.

The way I do it:

6+6 = 12 +1 = 13

Dunno how relevant calculating is to ADHD, but it is fun to see how people calculate things in their heads in different ways.

I would have gladly left the floor to you xD personally I’m not gifted at debating. The only time I decided to push back when this guy went on his pseudo philosophical monologues was when he started talking about the Jewish question. It wasn’t very fruitful. I tried to make him understand where he was heading “intellectually” and he told me I was too small minded to think outside the box. We stopped talking eventually. He was one of the biggest tools I have met in my adult life.

Yeah… I find them to be somewhat rare in the wild, but I have met them a few times and I am always so severely secondhand-embarrassed for them that their cringe haunts me almost as much as my own cringe years later.

And I mean, I’m not talking about 20somethings acting cocky and like they know everything like some tend to do becuase that shit is just normal developmental stuff and I don’t mind that. We have all been there.

It’s when real adults act like attention starved, insecure dummies hiding behind fake confidence that I just crumble inside.

Once had a mid 30s guy talk about basic bitch life philosophy in a way like he was almost orgasming at his own brilliance and everybody around the table were so embarrassed for him. I don’t remember what he was talking about, but like… some very basic shit and he kept acting like we were all too stupid to have had these thoughts ourselves. Probably it was something he had only just realized himself. And look, I get it! It’s kinda awesome when some life-wisdom and philosophy-bah blah finally clicks for real in your head as you get older, but because of that guy I have since been scared of sharing any such revelations with anyone becuase I cannot bear the thought of ending up being the dumbest person in the room while I’m high on an epiphany that is nothing special to everybody else. Omg, I can’t even think it without squirming.

I still think about that moment with the guy sometimes at night when I am going to sleep and one would think it would be a relief to force-think about cringe shit someone other than one self has done, but no. No it is isn’t. It is just pain.

I cannot imagine what it would be like to be close to Elon as a family member or a friend. I would have fucking nightly panic attacks over the newest dumb shit he’s done and feel embarrassed that he’s my family member or friend. Like what does that say about me that I have a person like that in my life, right?

I have enough of my own lifelong cringe to carry. I can’t carry other people’s cringe too, man.

Then they just need to figure out how to use the non-cancer-gene from those blind naked African rats who can run equally fast forward and backwards, look like a wrinkly penis with legs and teeth and are friends with Ron Stoppable and we will have figured out a cure to cancer while regenerating body parts left and right. It’ll be great.

He must really think we are all as dumb as he is.

It’s hard to stand for any principles when you’re bought and paid for by the very people who are currently riding their insanity bus with trump.

I recommend you check out Wendigoon’s video on the subject. There was some faulty reporting on what actually went on there. The doctors, nurses and the family were not monsters and Hisachi himself was not begging for death. He tried to hold on to life for the sake of his family. It is a very touching story that fell victim to sensationalism because apparently, going through insane radiation sickness wasn’t sensational enough.

House of Leaves. I was obsessed with that book. Even ended up writing a paper on it and got a pretty good grade.

Haven’t reread it since because I don’t want to risk spoiling the memory by potentially realizing it isn’t as good as I remember it, haha.

Seriously, good on you and your friend for proving the negative assessments of your skills in childhood wrong! That is awesome!

I totally get what you mean about finding an environment where there are more people with quirky brains for lack of a better word. I’m in the same boat, but a different field. It is staggering just how many people are disordered or mentally ill in my field. So so sooooooo many ADHDers and people with autism. So many. In hindsight I realized that I have always vibed the absolute best with people who were a bit off. Most of my close friends throughout life have later been diagnosed with either adhd or autism. It is actually pretty crazy to think of. Like a friggin magnet, I always ended up in those crowds.

I also won’t consider myself gifted or smart. It would be nice to be that, but I honestly think I’m average or a bit below.

I have my moments where I’m super fucking sharp, but most of the time I feel like a bumbling idiot, tbh. I learned to read and write etc very slowly. I was always a bit behind or just good enough to not be considered completely dumb. I was in an extra math class after school with other kids who were extremely bad at math but ended up being kicked out because I too good at math to be in that class. That doesn’t mean I was good at math, I was just just terrible enough to be in that class.

I only learned things if they interested me. When I realized that reading and writing gave me access to reading and writing stories, I learned to read and write very quickly. When I got into my country’s version of high-school, I went from barely passable grades in math to pretty good grades because some of the math, exponential functions and stuff like that for some reason translated into fun on my brain.

I learned English (my second language) mostly because I became obsessed with a rather advanced novel when I was 17 and it only existed in English so I learned English by reading it. Before that, I had the most basic English skills.

It’s always been like this. I only learn something if something else motivates me. I cannot just sit down and learn stuff if it bores me and most things tend to bore me until my brain randomly pics out one topic and goes “now this is your new oxygen for the next few days weeks or months. I dunno, I don’t have timeline, but until I say otherwise, this is the most interesting thing in the world”.

I have a few skills that are above average but for the most part I’m a very ignorant kinda dumb person. I did get an IQ test when I was a young teen but I don’t trust the results. The only positive that came out of getting tested like that was that my teachers dropped the topic of me being retarded, but I still don’t trust those results. At all.

Thank you for the compliment, btw! I try my best to be a kind person to other people and I definitely see myself as a small part of the village. That is the type of role I feel suits me the best in any community because I tend to pop in and out of existence constantly. Super present and there some days and then hiding in my hole while recovering other days, lol. Social stuff equally sustains and drains me. There’s no middle ground xD

First of all, I’m truly sorry that you have had this experience. It hurts my soul that you, from the age of 9 have felt that life isn’t worth living. I do hope you have had good moments too and life hasn’t been all misery for you because fuck. That isn’t how it should be for anyone!

As for myself, I will say that I do not have an official diagnosis, but display MANY ADHD symptoms, just in the more inward sort of way.

So for me, growing up, I was pretty good at being sort of invisible in school so i was never really yelled at, but i did get bullied a lot and i was projected to have a very low IQ by a couple of teachers which has stuck with me my whole life. I did experience a lot of rejection too both from peers but also from one of my parents. Later in life I have realized that almost everything about me that was rejected by others had to do with my symptoms.

I did think I would have kids someday, but I didn’t want kids until I had a reasonable income and a house and neither ever happened to me. I also didn’t want kids until I was mentally mature enough for it and that never happened either.

I love children and I’m really good with kids, but I will never be a mother. I cannot do that to them.

I can’t give them a home nor financial stability and I cannot promise that will be a good parent either.

I am extremely scared of the idea of becoming a parent and then turning out to be a monster to my kid.

I don’t want to be selfish. My self worth is in the dumpster when it comes to believing i would ever be good enough to be a parent. People used to not understand it. Sometimes they still don’t.

But it is what it is. I’m not going to fuck up somebody else’s childhood. Instead I can be an aunt to other people’s kids and be useful that way. I think that is better.

Preach, my friend. It is actually the main reason I’m considering deleting my profile because part of the reason I left mainstream social media was to get away from politics and ideological lunatics, but this platform is fucking full of both. Even after filtering out as much of it as possible. Its like a cancer, spreading to every forum page on here.

Is there anywhere on the internet where people are just focusing on hobbies and interests that aren’t mired in hatred and aggression?

It is amazing what excuses cheaters will use to justify their behavior.

In my case, my ex did the nature documentary argument way before the manosphere became a thing. I dunno why that is a pattern with that sort of man. They like to think of themselves as superior intellectuals until it comes to sex, then they will make graphs and studies and be pseudo David Attenboroughs to justify that their caveman urges are too strong for them to overcome.

I guess the female version of that is tarot cards, coffee grounds and zodiacs? I hope you found a better lady later, because that one surely wasn’t worth keeping in your life!