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Cake day: June 10th, 2024

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  • You tried to hit on a younger lady by saying she looks good naked, then tried to back track it by saying it was about her tattoos. If it was just about the tattoos you would’ve said “I like your tattoos”. If this was a dude who had cool tattoos you would’ve have phrased it like that at all.

    You balked about being accused of sexually harassing her but my guy, you did. It’s pretty clear you thought she was hot and you shot your shot.

    And then you flubbed the apology, basically said it’s your nature to do that (so it says that you don’t think you can change), and then at the end were saying that it felt like she was trying to get you to see her side, and dismissed it by saying you think it should have been a two way street.

    So look at all this from an outside perspective. Old letch comes up to young lady, takes something from her, says he’s watched her naked and likes it. Back in the day someone would’ve punched the guy. She asks for the thing back and the guy makes excuses. No apologies, just “it’s my nature” and “you got it wrong”, not “I’m sorry I made you uncomfortable”

    Dude sees the old guy in his naked hot box and steps in because the guy was a creep and it’s his hot box anyway, and the creep tries to get the girl alone and then goes off and sulks when kicked out.

    Then when she sees him again at the river, she tries to explain her feelings, and he just makes the same excuses.

    Does that sound as good?

    So here’s how you fucked up.

    • don’t ever compliment someone on something they didn’t choose. No one chooses their body. People choose their clothing and tattoos. Those are fair to compliment. Saying she looks nice naked isn’t.

    • Apologies involve understanding how you made the other person upset, recognizing it and acknowledging it, trying to make amends and then trying not to do that again. You did not apologize, you made excuses. Saying sorry isn’t a full apology. You needed to listen to her instead of a two way street.

    • being sulky and feeling like the police guy was being mean to you sucks, but you did creep on someone, in an atmosphere that was ready to blow because of someone else being a creep. To a woman. All things considered him kicking you out of his own sauna was mild, and the lady was clearly done talking to you because she didn’t say it was ok. It sounds like you had repeated your side enough that the guy had heard it already.

    -you watched him get a massage from her? You sounded pouty and jealous about it.

    • I grew up going to these sorts of things. I can tell you that it was still inappropriate given the setting.

    So here’s my advice. I’ve let you have it so this is the nice part. This is not an insult. Don’t take it as an insult.

    You have autism. I’m certain of it.

    The way you acted, the way you reacted, the lack of social awareness, the way you explained things in this post, being scared afterwards, etc. All signs point to autism. Especially if you’re older and acting this way.

    Being autistic isn’t a shameful things and if you were never diagnosed there was support that you could’ve had that was denied you.

    If you want to go back to this event next year, I STRONGLY suggest that you get checked out for autism, and if you do have it, that is basically the ONLY way you’re going to salvage this situation with these people. “I’m sorry about last year, I’m sorry I upset you, I found out I’m autistic so I screwed up” is probably the only thing that can come out of your mouth that would make younger people less pissed at you at this point.

    It might help you a lot and I know older people balk at the idea of even being checked, but I really think you should, it’ll help you out a lot.











  • I’ve been couch surfing homeless before and that was rough enough. People begging for money have it way tougher. Just because there might possibly be someone who has a house and a car behind for money doesn’t mean it’s a scam, they might also be desperate for money despite having those things.

    Begging for money isn’t very lucrative.

    If you have the cash and want to help, go ahead and toss that starfish, but if you don’t want to don’t pretend you’re taking the high road.