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Cake day: August 16th, 2023

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  • Infodumping male here, I generally do it because in my mind context is important to make sense, and of course I do it regardless of gender. It honestly feels like a detriment, as I feel myself taking too long, but don’t really know how to shorten it. I do it when explaining issues at work or when talking about stuff I like etc, but have audio has times where I tried to be brief then got the wrong info across or forgot to mention something important or just right make sense. It’s like I can’t find the right balance between explaining and dumping.

    I didn’t find this post as an insult or anything though.




  • You’re either missing the point again, or intentionally asking at what point you can stop acknowledging prior contributions to claim it as your own. Let’s change it from food.

    “At what point can I claim I invented math after it was taught to me?” - as long as it was taught and you didn’t discover it completely on your own, never. The work was built on the work of those that came before.

    “At what point can I claim I invented computer technology without any assistance from any societies, technologies, or ideas from previous people or previous civilizations?” - If at birth you were left on a deserted island, and by yourself survived, created all tech by yourself, then yes. Otherwise, never.

    So while you can say “Apple pie is part of American culture” and be correct, it will also always be true that American culture got parts of its culture from other cultures.



  • I don’t feel like doing the math googling it, but I was born Brooklyn, NY, USA. Currently a few miles outside Atlanta, GA, but my journey here takes me up and down the east coast, plus a place further south. I can’t really think of NY as home because I’ve only lived there maybe 1.5 years at most, and 1 of those was as an infant.

    At 1 my family moved to GA, at 2 they moved to Saint Vincent and the Grenadines (fathers home country), where my first memories are from. At 7 my mom left said father over his repeated cheating, so we moved back to Brooklyn for ~6 months (maybe less) then moved to Virginia until I hit 17 when I graduated highschool. Moved to Florida, lived there for years until 2017 and I moved to GA for a job.

    I’m not sure I consider anywhere other than where I am now “home.” I have fond memories of each place, but they just feel like phases of my past life, like elementary(well, 4 different elementary), middle, or highschool. I don’t consider any of those schools any more of a school I went to than the others, and I generally treat “home” the same. It’s just where I live now.

    I also don’t fully identify with any ethnic group either. I spoke without an accent in the island so never fully integrated, and then in the US I didn’t quite have the same lived experience there either.






  • Coworker here in US had some strange neurological issues(vertigo among other stuff) and has had to wait months between visits to see a specialist. He’s had to WFH several times because driving is dangerous. Of course along with the waits he also is spending thousands on the visit, iirc he almost hit his ~$6000 out of pocket max this year.




  • I’m not quite as bad as the post, but emotions are complicated. I like friends, and I like being invited, even if I might not be able to go.

    I do want to go out to places, but sometimes the distance, timing, proximity to last event, etc make it too much.

    I don’t want to fall out of the list of invitees though, as I will want to go at some point in the future. Sometimes it’s an event that not going to might be a problem otherwise, even if I’m not up to it, but to maintain invites/friendship it’s best to suck it up.


  • I don’t vape or smoke (I have used a few THC carts from time to time, but I usually just take half an edible, and the cart is used maybe once a month if that often), but I still will criticize broad generalizations from limited studies, especially not peer reviewed.

    I do agree that their findings seem to be more about regulation than vaping itself, and I’m happy I don’t vape, but I’m not going to act like I can just confidently tell every person I know the science has proven their habit is worse than smoking.


  • I’ve heard some either Australian or British or both that pronounce H as something close to Hayche. Using a similar accent, and making it a bit hard to hear by mumbling or something, Hayche and age can sound similar.

    Hayche is of course made up, but that’s how it feels to me to write it, but I’m no linguist, and I don’t know how to write in pronunciation guides.