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Cake day: March 18th, 2024

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  • If you are interested in unlearning paternalistic relationship structures I would recommend you read / listen to Dan Savage. He does a weekly sex and relationship columns since the 1990 and a podcast since the early 2000s so he has been doing this a long time so has a great backlog of material most of which is free. Especially since you are young and want some outsider perspective.

    He talks often about alternative sexualities (queer, kink, etc.) and relationships structures (polyamory, open relationships, female led relationships, etc.) which might not be applicable to you. I know you mentioned that you are NOT into BDSM but understanding how common and acceptable doing something like that it makes what you are asking into context. Its the same tools around consent and communication about needs regardless of what you are doing. Listening and understanding the extreme level sexual acts will put your asks into perspective. Also hearing about the variety of ways organize their relationships and sex lives will really deprogram you from the single view of gender and sexuality you were brought up in.





  • The two that I have had the most success were both hobbies I enjoyed that had a regular group that happens weekly. One was an in person weekly DnD game at a local game shop. It was great to chat about TTRPGs DnD and other nerdy things with everyone since I loved it. (It was in Chicago and few of the older people played with Gygax which was awesome.)

    The second was a weekly distance running group that I am still kind of a part of. We run for an hour for a similar route and then go out for pizza. It was great to chat with whoever was my own speed. when running and then with everyone for food afterwards. I do some endurance sports and it was fun to hear about all the crazy things the really good ones did.

    Both were weekly, in person and were things I was interested about. These are the key


  • Once I purchased a house I had the same goal starting with my neighborhood. I started with the Seek app which allows you to take a picture of a plant and it will identify. I used it whenever I walk around my block and my house. Start with the ones you see the most. Start with plants since they are static and most common. Start with flowers since those are the most distinctive and easiest to identify via the app.

    If you are really interested there are a few books that I found very interesting. First would be a foraging / herbalism book for your region. I can’t recommend what that is since I only know for the Upper Midwest in the USA. I found I could remember a plant best if I knew what it was for and could interact with it. (I.e. use it or eat it)

    The second is Weeds: in defence of Nature’s Most Unloved Plants. If you live anywhere where other people live you will mostly see “weeds” the most human plant. The author is from England so it might not be about all your weeds but they are global travelers so you will see lots of overlap. It’s a fun long term project. Good luck


  • So in 2015 I made a career move from doing a lot of project management in a STEM field into Data Science. I had the math and statistics background but no coding experience which not necessary for the program. It was a program for working professionals with all classes in the evening or weekends so a similar program set up. For each course we went through a topic and then had an example programing language where we could apply this concept. So during this program I started with 0 programming languages known and ended up with like a dozen where I at least touched it. Most people had one or two programming languages that they used for their job which they relied on.

    It was a difficult program since I had to learn all of this from scratch but it taught me how to learn a new programming language. How to google the correct terms, how to read documentation, how to learn a new syntax and how to think to write in code. This was the most valuable thing I learned from this program. For you focus on what you are learning and use the tools that assist with that. That means using ChatGPT to answer your questions, or pull up documentation for you or even to fix an error if you get stuck, (especially syntax errors since it can get frustrating to find that missing comma but its a valuable skill to practice). Anyone who is having their code full written by them are missing the learning how to learn.

    For SQL its kind of struggle to learn because its an odd language. Struggle and you will learn the concepts you need. Using ChatGPT for everything will be a huge disservice for them since they won’t learn all the concepts if you jump ahead. Some of these more advanced functions are way more complex to troubleshoot and won’t work on certain flavors of SQL. Struggle and learn and you will do great











  • Curtains are a god send. Make sure you have them to isolate things coming into and out of your house. So have a curtain to isolate your entry way. That way the heat stays there. Same things at the stairs so you can keep the cool in the baseline while you stay there

    Also to note that depending on your house and the outside temp its not worthwhile to open the windows at night. But generally it is better. Make sure you have a fan in the window blowing the hot air out as well. Its best if its upstairs to draw the cool air in.



  • Someone below mentioned that dry ice would be needed to freeze the ethanol but you didn’t say you wanted to freeze it. That is partly why I was confused since freezing would damage compounds. Keeping it cold would not

    Typically for herbal extractions I want everything from the plant. Herbalism basically says that the mixture works better than any individual compound. If you want to a more focused effect you take multiple plants with similar effects so you want to grab everything.

    I have a friend who saved his sticks and stems from his homegrown cannabis plant. I will definitely try this if I want to try to extract from that. I bet that has much more undesirables than something like basis which is edible from root up.