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Cake day: July 31st, 2023

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  • That’s the whole thing. Crypto was supposed to be a currency system by using a block chain as a ledger.

    Ethereum is kind of what crypto was thought up to be. A semi stable coin, that serves as decentralized currency.

    In some ways it’s brilliant; no institution that can watch what you buy, limit you or take their cut. But then again, it’s rife with illegal transactions and some really impactful theoretical attacks, especially against the ledger. It’s a blessing and a curse.


  • To me it’s always the intention that’s important. I do music because it helped me so now I wanna help others.

    I don’t like money at all because I think it puts a value to things that can be invaluable. That said, there’s a big difference between wanting to be a millionaire with all that luxury or wanting to understand money. I think the former will lead you to attach happiness to money very quickly and that’s dangerous, but the latter can be very insightful.

    Anyway, you do you :)



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    I don’t.

    At some point I realized there’s infinite awesome and infinite cruel things on the Internet, and people usually wanna show you the cruel stuff because it makes money / keeps anxious.

    But you don’t need to fix the whole world at once and no one can fight the alligators when standing in the swamp.

    So I don’t, I only get news from friends +& family and otherwise I focus on productive things on he Internet, like nature documentaries, science, entertainment and learning things like coding or philosophy. I know this sounds ignorant but I know this is the state where I am most valuable to myself and therefore all the people around me, so that’s how I wanna live.

    Now everyone has to find their own threshold of cruelty they can take on a day-to-day basis, but usually if you care about your mental health you should set a limit, only watch some of it. Rarely can people watch cruel things daily and not get PTSD, which is pertinent for jobs like EMT or the military.



  • There’s some truth to what you’re saying but I still disagree. People are cool if you approach them because you wanna be friends but when you approach them with romantic interest things get difficult.

    I know one way to look at relationships is best friends who have sex, but the truth is interactions change greatly between friendships and relationships.

    Do you walk up to random guys hoping that you might have a shared interest and make a new friend?

    Yes, on occasion. And it turns out, cold-approaching kind of works for that. And I usually also don’t need to be weary of personal boundaries because I’m not looking for closeness.

    Whether it’s sex, or a little heavy petting, you have a goal in mind and you’ve mentally decided that a complete stranger should help you fulfill that.

    Or I don’t know what I want because I’m approaching a random person to see if we vibe and what that looks like for us.

    Just because I’m looking for someone doesn’t mean they’re tools for me. I just wanna do it respectfully, and not push boundaries.

    Treating someone differently only because of a physical trait is the definition of discrimination.

    I’m gonna give it another hot take and say discrimination is bad, but it stops right where attraction starts. If you find someone unattractive, you are not obliged to ask them out. It’s perfectly fine to only ask people out who you are attracted to. And if you are attracted to someone for their nose, that’s fine by me. Imo that’s actually an admirable state of society to be in.

    I’m not saying we don’t have a societal problem when it comes to this stuff but I’m starting to think “just go out more” is something that just doesn’t work for everyone so we should find something better for those people.


  • Well if that’s how it works then I have no hope of finding someone. Socializing is literally so taxing that I only do it if I explicitly need to.

    Ofc I also had people telling me “come on dude don’t be a little bitch just go talk to people” but that’s just not possible for me if I know it will be for more than an hour and it might just be “for the hell of it” because I can only take 2 social occasions every two weeks and the rest of the time I need to recharge alone at home. So either I survive my obligations and take care of friendships, or I can waste 2 weeks just so maybe I can advance socially and I tend to value my friendships more.

    Now I believe everything you said but it sounds like we are very different. Btw I do wanna say I am not bad at socializing, I just really can’t do it a lot. Probably average social skills, little bit less than average looks and rizz.




  • Hard disagree. I have the exact same question, and I just wanna meet a girl to be romantic with, I don’t care about one night stands or anything. And I hate online dating because I have to filter by attractiveness and I don’t go on there to bang people, I actually wanna find someone I connect with.

    It’s easy to equate everything to pick up artists but the truth is as a shy and introverted person what options do you have?

    I know there’s a good reason for women, trans and nb people to be cautious, but at the same time, discouraging people like this literally breeds pick-up artists. Because you are giving me no solutions, you are only saying what not to do and how I’m bad for even thinking about it, while these guys are giving me “solutions”. Now I’m not gonna listen to them because I don’t even wanna have sex, but other people in the same boat as me will.

    I know this opinion is controversial but if people gave me actual ways to meet someone in a romantic context that don’t involve sexualizing them, I’d be the first one to try it. It does have to be more specific than “vibes” or “be nice” though for obvious reasons.