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Cake day: June 6th, 2023

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  • I guess, just imagine if someone who you didn’t particularly find atttactive but was friendly, said the same thing to you.

    You would suddenly feel a little less liberated in your nudity, and perhaps feel the need to avoid that person, even if their intentions were not impure.

    I think you meant well, and you added the nudity part to your compliment because it was such a new and profound way to suddenly see something beautiful.

    Nudity usually takes on an erotic undertone, so it may genuinely have been a eureka moment for you to see something naked and beautiful outside that erotic context.

    Unfortunately that undertone is there, no matter your intention, and I know you want to defend your intentions, but you would be digging a hole by doing so.

    No need to spiral into complete self-doubt on whether you’re a good person or not. You know your intentions, you just goofed up on the delivery and unfortunately that made someone feel less secure.

    It’s a learning experience, and you seem keen to learn, and I think just tread a bit more carefully in the future.

    Thanks for sharing your story by the way, I feel like I’ve learned from it a bit myself