I don’t see it that way at all. He can trust her while not trusting the people she associates with.
I’ve had this issue with multiple girlfriends (who all ended up with one of the guys I warned them about). It’s easy to tell when a guy is only being friendly to try to fuck a girl. Pointing that out isn’t controlling in my eyes it’s trying to be protective.
I’ll grant you he shouldn’t have said “stop hanging out with them” but the main point is there if you don’t have the knee jerk reaction to the phrasing.
I’ve had this issue with multiple girlfriends (who all ended up with one of the guys I warned them about).
It sounds like you pushed them away to me: These other dudes will have been being nice and friendly to her meanwhile you’re being controlling and untrusting of the very guys who are considerably more fun to be with whilst you’re telling her which of them definitely fancy her, so she’s in if she wants to take a punt on one of them.
I mean, you’re kind of acting like an annoying wing man for her male friends. Why not swap you out?
I don’t trust other men to respect boundaries. If another man is only friends with my girlfriend because he wants to fuck her then he’s already the type of man I wouldn’t trust not to make unwanted moves.
She might not reciprocate but that’s not what I’m worried about in this scenario.
I don’t see it that way at all. He can trust her while not trusting the people she associates with.
I’ve had this issue with multiple girlfriends (who all ended up with one of the guys I warned them about). It’s easy to tell when a guy is only being friendly to try to fuck a girl. Pointing that out isn’t controlling in my eyes it’s trying to be protective.
I’ll grant you he shouldn’t have said “stop hanging out with them” but the main point is there if you don’t have the knee jerk reaction to the phrasing.
It sounds like you pushed them away to me: These other dudes will have been being nice and friendly to her meanwhile you’re being controlling and untrusting of the very guys who are considerably more fun to be with whilst you’re telling her which of them definitely fancy her, so she’s in if she wants to take a punt on one of them.
I mean, you’re kind of acting like an annoying wing man for her male friends. Why not swap you out?
If the existence of alternatives is a threat to your relationship, your relationship is on borrowed time anyway.
But, if you trust her, there shouldn’t be a problem, right?
Or is it that you (in this hypothetical situation) don’t truly trust her, otherwise you’d trust her around people you don’t trust.
And that’s okay, just don’t pretend it’s actually trust.
I don’t trust other men to respect boundaries. If another man is only friends with my girlfriend because he wants to fuck her then he’s already the type of man I wouldn’t trust not to make unwanted moves.
She might not reciprocate but that’s not what I’m worried about in this scenario.