Sorry if abstract meta questions are not your thing. I find it interesting to discover other perspective views.
I was in the shower with the thought, “Is any narcissist self aware of their narcissism?”
Maybe meta awareness of narcissism is like intelligence, beauty, or hearing one’s own voice. We may infer information based upon feedback, but lack an objective frame of reference.
On another level, I am aware of how I am abstract in functional thought, like inferencing across many unrelated spaces, and big-picture meaning. I’m aware of my intuition as it relates to others in general, but I’m not aware of my own beauty or intelligence as it contrasts with others.
Are there universal unknowns? Are we always ungrounded in all self perception; only overconfident in our self asserting narratives? What are your thoughts? Are you intelligently beautiful and teflon to the accusation of narcissism? Perhaps charisma is the ultimate superhero mask.
I don’t honestly believe it is possible to ever truly “know yourself”, so I would say all traits are unknowable.
The reason I say this is because one doesn’t ever know how they will react in any given situation until it happens. One can train, one can prepare, but until they are in an exact situation with exact circumstances one cannot declare with certainty what they will do.
I do not believe in free will as well, so that is another point against “knowing yourself” for me as all “you” are is an observer to the experiences that aren’t controllable in the first place.
That is not to say that one cannot predict with some accuracy how they will behave, but with so many unknown factors involved with simply existing (like the fact that we forget things that happened and remember things that didn’t; Can be impacted by unknown emotional states; etc), I do not believe anyone can be certain of themselves even with detailed notes and 3rd party help.