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  • You could start with your oldest memories of him. That could help with building the new relationship.

    But: no one of us knows what things he has learned there, during 11 years. But I am sure there are some bad things among it.

    So I think it would be best to be careful at all times. Tell him that you hardly know him, but treat him like you don’t know him at all.

    Edit: one more thing comes to my mind. I interpret from your posting (I may be wrong) that you did not visit him regularly. Then this is going to be an issue.

    You shouldn’t avoid it. Think about it.

    If you are going to apologize, do it soon, and try to be open about it (surely there were reasons, and there were circumstances). Maybe he would still hold a grudge from it for some more time. Then accept it, because it simply needs time.







  • She was supportive of him taking a second wife, with just one request: no more children.

    Unfair! Overstepping! None of her business! She just wanted to limit who the heirs will be later.

    He is NOT bound to this in any way. Not at all, even if he has made promises to her accordingly.

    I think you must tell him this in very clear and explicit words, because I suspect that he is having such thoughts, and maybe still feels bound by her in this regard.


  • Please go read about nazi germany before you make up some fanfic

    Now there’s only one of us telling bull & fiction. I don’t know your games and I stay with what my relatives and some neighbors have told me.

    Ok, not many were shot in such a way, or in worse ways, but when it happened, then it got told, and people knew who the victim was, and most times people knew who the shooter was. And they remembered long after. Even I was told some of the names, but I didn’t know the people, because it was so long before me.


  • Well, the average people from then, they don’t live anymore in this world.

    My mom, and my mom in law are still here. Both were very little children then, born in 41 and 43. For them, the only memories are the end of the war, and then the time after.

    So, what I heard from other people before:

    It was always fear. The Nazi’s methods were violent, unfair, inhuman and their power came from creating fear.

    Of course the “average” people were not all affected equally. My folks all lived in very rural areas, and there things worked different. Fear was transported indirectly, by some “stronger” Nazis who controlled “medium” Nazis, who were then set to oversee “normal” people in some part of the country.

    people that didn’t say or do anything?

    Not existent after some point.

    Everybody was required to actively support Hitler, for example with the infamous greeting. When you were greeted with “Heil Hitler”, then, in the beginning, you had a chance to respond something like “yea, it’s ok…” or “you can lick mine, too” (and of course, normal people said things like “Have a nice day”), but later, if you did respond with anything else than the same “Heil Hitler”, and loudly and clearly, you could get shot right there on the spot.

    Of course there were still some exceptions, but therefore you had to know very good who that other person was, and what was possible to do then.

    In these rural areas, what many people did was simply hiding when the “wrong” people were in town.