• dandelion@piefed.blahaj.zoneM
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    2 months ago

    Some men seem to think women dress and do makeup and hair for them alone, and that this is inherently sexual; meanwhile if there were no men I would continue to dress up and do hair and makeup and I think this is because lots of women dress and do makeup for ourselves and for other women, to feel human and have self esteem, and also to establish social status among other women.

    • LadyButterfly she/her@piefed.blahaj.zoneOPM
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      2 months ago

      Yep! Not to mention how many decent men think they have a right to tell their partner to have long hair, get a Brazilian, wear high heels etc. I’ve met so many who think as it’s just a couple of things so they can expect it cos THEY like it that way

      • ZDL@lazysoci.al
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        2 months ago

        I actually had someone tell me I should get a Brazilian. We weren’t together long after that, but we split up after I told him I’d get one the day after he got one.

      • dandelion@piefed.blahaj.zoneM
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        2 months ago

        that’s a good point, part of the assumption that it’s all for them is that their preferences are all that matter 🤦‍♀️

      • NιƙƙιDιɱҽʂ@lemmy.world
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        1 month ago

        Agreed. People dictating how their partners should express themselves are so gross.

        My boyfriend keeps asking if he can shave his head. I’m like, dude, I love your hair and think it’s beautiful, but if that’s what you want to do, I’m here for it. It’s his hair after all, haha.