But what if, because I’m working, I don’t have time to type all that out? But rather than completely ignoring the message, I try to give what answer I can? Have you never worked a job busy enough that you don’t have time to send full sentence texts? In the food industry it’s quite common, especially if she actually works on the kitchen staff.
Also, the crisis could also be averted by the other person not feeling entitled to getting “good enough” responses. Do you owe people a response that is up to their standards? Certainly not when you’re so unfamiliar with someone that they don’t even know what job you do. To my friends or family, sure…but I would also expect them to understand me giving out curt messages if I’m busy too.
That’s a poor strategy. The other person is going to think you’re bad at communicating (because you are, at least in that moment). These chats are asynchronous. Respond when you have time, optionally indicating that you don’t have time right now.
The other person doesn’t know you. This is their entire impression. Why would you make it a half-assed one?
I read “what are you doing on such and such island?” “Working” to mean work is what brought her to the area, not that she is currently on the clock. I could be completely wrong because Chloe seems to have the communication skills of a 2002 Honda Civic. “It just says ‘Check Engine.’”
As for owing people responses…that seems to be the wrongheaded question. She installed the app on her phone, created an account, filled out a profile, and swiped right on this guy…for what purpose?
“Sorry, working” is a completely acceptable response. It sets up the idea that you’re still interested in communicating, but can’t right now.
If you don’t have time to make a quick message like that, then don’t answer right now. Wait until you’re on break or off work and then pick up the conversation. An answer that raises more questions than it answers is just frustrating for all parties involved, you included since you get more questions :P
(Realized while looking at this that it sounds like I’m addressing this to you specifically. I’m not. I’m just sharing my thoughts on how to communicate that one’s at work in general, so sorry if it comes across as accusatory)
Then, say so. “Hey, I’m working. I really want to chat up with you but I’m currently busy. I’ll hit you up during my break.”
There, crisis adverted by the power of actually being communicative.
Am I missing something? Why would she need to reply immediately? Can’t she just wait until she’s off the clock?
depends if the platform has read receipts
But what if, because I’m working, I don’t have time to type all that out? But rather than completely ignoring the message, I try to give what answer I can? Have you never worked a job busy enough that you don’t have time to send full sentence texts? In the food industry it’s quite common, especially if she actually works on the kitchen staff.
Also, the crisis could also be averted by the other person not feeling entitled to getting “good enough” responses. Do you owe people a response that is up to their standards? Certainly not when you’re so unfamiliar with someone that they don’t even know what job you do. To my friends or family, sure…but I would also expect them to understand me giving out curt messages if I’m busy too.
That’s a poor strategy. The other person is going to think you’re bad at communicating (because you are, at least in that moment). These chats are asynchronous. Respond when you have time, optionally indicating that you don’t have time right now.
The other person doesn’t know you. This is their entire impression. Why would you make it a half-assed one?
I read “what are you doing on such and such island?” “Working” to mean work is what brought her to the area, not that she is currently on the clock. I could be completely wrong because Chloe seems to have the communication skills of a 2002 Honda Civic. “It just says ‘Check Engine.’”
As for owing people responses…that seems to be the wrongheaded question. She installed the app on her phone, created an account, filled out a profile, and swiped right on this guy…for what purpose?
Sorry. Working.
I mean, this proves nothing to me because I find this a perfectly acceptable response lol
“Sorry, working” is a completely acceptable response. It sets up the idea that you’re still interested in communicating, but can’t right now.
If you don’t have time to make a quick message like that, then don’t answer right now. Wait until you’re on break or off work and then pick up the conversation. An answer that raises more questions than it answers is just frustrating for all parties involved, you included since you get more questions :P
(Realized while looking at this that it sounds like I’m addressing this to you specifically. I’m not. I’m just sharing my thoughts on how to communicate that one’s at work in general, so sorry if it comes across as accusatory)