• agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
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    4 days ago

    I’m just… not late, and I don’t see why I should practice being disrespectful with other people’s time.

    It’s weird to me that their therapist just suggested disrespecting other people’s time like that. Like sure, give yourself grace but… just be late? Why should you change? It’s the tardy people that suck.

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      4 days ago

      Maybe if OP becomes disproportionally distraught it could be a good exercise, but then I guess my family will say I am disproportionally distraught 😁

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        4 days ago

        yes that’s a nice way of putting it. It isn’t a panic attack but I get extremely agitated, short tempered, crazed with distress and afraid to my bones. It’s very rare because i just plan to never be late but when it does happen I show up in tears and have made anyone accompanying me miserable.

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          4 days ago

          Babylove, can you re-read what you just wrote, please? “…afraid to your bones” ? That’s a panic attack. It doesn’t have to be like the movies where you fall down, hyperventilating. I come from an abusive home too, so I have a pretty good idea of who told you you have to be small, but you don’t have to minimize your experiences or silence your struggles! I’m just a stranger on the internet, so take my opinion w a grain of salt, or just throw it right away if you want. You deserve to be understood and respected.

          Hope you have a calm and peaceful day xoxo

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            4 days ago

            hey thank you that’s some good points you make. I always associate panic attack with like the fake heart attack feeling i guess? but yeah i’m definitely panicking lol

            💜

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      4 days ago

      If everyone’s late, then showing up late isn’t really showing up late, y’know?

      I’m often a little late to larger hangs or house parties, just because I don’t want to be standing around waiting for the cool late people to show up.