• Lemminary@lemmy.world
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    Nope, this is about matching energy and effort when trying to get to know someone. If I’m trying to break the ice and you refuse to meet me in the middle, I’m also going to be blunt, block you, or ghost your lazy ass, depending on the mood that day.

    I’ve been on both sides of this, and I still have the decency to shoot back something like “Sorry can’t talk right now, busy at work, I’ll get back to you asap”, and actually follow through. It really doesn’t take any more than 15 seconds, and anything less is a lack of consideration, acting like a prima donna, or a severe lack of social skills.

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      This exchange is clearly not the beginning of the conversation. Previous messages have been excluded from the snip on purpose.

      The replies on the left are exactly how someone unimpressed behaves.

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        This exchange is clearly not the beginning of the conversation. Previous messages have been excluded from the snip on purpose.

        Bruh it’s because it’s a meme. It’s not trying to “AITA” or otherwise seek affirmation for their actions. No Chloes were harmed in the making of this meme.

        The replies on the left are exactly how someone unimpressed behaves.

        Or someone with no social skills.

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          Couldn’t possibly be that she’s got better uses of her energy than to engage all the pushy guys that text her all the time amirite

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            If said guy is asking about what she does for work, that means they don’t know each other very well.

            Just tell them you’re not interested or ghost them if you don’t want to engage? They’re most likely not in your personal life and are just on a dating app if they don’t even know what you do.

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              Why are so many commenters so comfortable pushing all responsibility onto the woman? Can you not imagine how draining it would be to have to engage like that with hundreds of milquetoast males every week

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                Why are so many commenters so comfortable pushing all responsibility onto the woman?

                They are on a platform for communicating. She is communicating poorly.

                Can you not imagine how draining it would be to have to engage like that with hundreds of milquetoast males every week

                She typed 6 words. It would’ve been less work to disengage by saying “not interested, sorry” - 3 words. It would’ve been far less work to just ghost them.

                Males

                Oh boy, what’s the impression we get when a guy calls women “females” when talking about dating? It’s not good, but it does provide more context to your comments.

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        Which then begs the question, why would they keep replying? Why would someone uninterested drag this on for so long for the other person to point it out? It makes even less sense for online dating where the block button is a staple. This is someone who feels entitled to be impressed without giving back.

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          You are awfully committed to pushing all of the benefit of the doubt to him and all of the obligation to her. Why do you think that is?

          You know that the moment she stops replying, his further comments will be more toxic than the ones in the screenshot.

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            Sibling in Christ, I am gay. I have no vested interest in whether one is a man or a woman. Their behavior is shitty either way you paint it. Besides, I’ve seen this play out in same-gender scenarios.

            his further comments will be more toxic

            The block button was specifically made for this.

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              you’re assuming genders

              Show me a man named Chloe or a woman as clueless and pushy as the guy on the right

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                Are you saying women can’t be as “clueless and pushy” as the person on the right? If anything, based on the dating memes of guys not being socially capable on dates, the fact that they are the one trying to keep up the conversation implies it might be more likely it’s a gal…

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                  Lol person on right is typical guy. There are millions of guys exactly like person on right. Part of the reason for left’s indifference is probably just how common guys like person on right are

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                I’ve seen this play out between two men and two women. And for that same reason, I had a slip-up because to me it’s not a matter of gender at all. But there, fixed, the point still stands.

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                  The block button was made specifically for this

                  Yes, true. Love block buttons. Glad they exist.

                  The existence of block buttons does not excuse pushy behavior.

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                    It’s not even pushy nor clueless, though. From my pov, the guy gave it a couple of attempts and then said something to address the elephant in the room. If someone were pushy, they’d play clueless and keep at it instead of losing their patience like that. I don’t imagine he persisted after this.

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          People are treating it like it’s a common sort of exchange. Whether this exact dialogue is fabricated or not doesn’t matter.