Trans people aren’t sensitive but a good majority of my trans friends back in the early 00’s were genuinely fucking crazy, never figured out what the correlation on that one was.
Good times though, one group, we would go traipsing around town until one of them got ridiculously hammered and got in a fight. Last I heard of that particular one, she got arrested for throwing a Molotov in someone’s yard for some reason
Not to project too much onto your friends, but based around my own experiences of being a trans teen/young adult at the time it would not surprise me at all if the ‘fucking crazy’ was PTSD.
Not ragging on you for framing it like that or anything even if it was from PTSD; I have PTSD and can be fucking crazy sometimes too, lol. Growing up in the 80s and 90s while trans messed with a lot of heads, mine included.
Aside from the PTSD someone else mentioned, the number one predictor of the development of a cluster b personality disorder is a childhood with a “consistently inconsistent pattern of invalidation.”
In layman’s terms, for most of this persons childhood there were both times where the child was validated and accepted, but at other times they were rejected / told that their lived experience was unimportant / fake. And that intermittent pattern kept occurring over most of their childhood. And that’s pretty much an exact description of a lot of trans kid’s childhoods.
There’s also a common argument that the invalidation is actually just a form of trauma, but personally I ascribe to the furthering of that train of thought that BPD is just a specific and particularly complicated form of PTSD.
In the end through you can’t deny that it often results in some people that take a lot more emotional energy to interact with than your average person, and that society often makes it really hard to budget our energy in ways that allow us to give it to them.
I don’t have a solution to that problem, at least not one I can explain in more than the next few paragraphs. I just hope pointing out that that’s what the problem is helps people reframe their frustrations in a way that’s more constructive.
I have tried working on !DIYMentalHealth@lemmy.dbzer0.com if anyone is interested in specific mental health tips, but I’m still in the process of… building the community I guess? I’m not much of a fighter so most of my contribution to a better tomorrow will probably be in helping the people who are good at that kind of thing stay healthier themselves.
That’s quite interesting, I’ve always enjoyed learning more about how humans think and why they think certain ways.
I will say though this does make sense, though some of the kids who’s parents actually understood, (remember anyone young today, this was a drastically more “under the rug” thing back before 2015ish) and supported them, those were the most messed up ones. To be fair though, that’s probably just due to my town being an absolute anomaly.
We were known for being kinda… Weird, compared to the surrounding towns
Trans people aren’t sensitive but a good majority of my trans friends back in the early 00’s were genuinely fucking crazy, never figured out what the correlation on that one was.
Good times though, one group, we would go traipsing around town until one of them got ridiculously hammered and got in a fight. Last I heard of that particular one, she got arrested for throwing a Molotov in someone’s yard for some reason
Not to project too much onto your friends, but based around my own experiences of being a trans teen/young adult at the time it would not surprise me at all if the ‘fucking crazy’ was PTSD.
Not ragging on you for framing it like that or anything even if it was from PTSD; I have PTSD and can be fucking crazy sometimes too, lol. Growing up in the 80s and 90s while trans messed with a lot of heads, mine included.
strongly agree
Aside from the PTSD someone else mentioned, the number one predictor of the development of a cluster b personality disorder is a childhood with a “consistently inconsistent pattern of invalidation.”
In layman’s terms, for most of this persons childhood there were both times where the child was validated and accepted, but at other times they were rejected / told that their lived experience was unimportant / fake. And that intermittent pattern kept occurring over most of their childhood. And that’s pretty much an exact description of a lot of trans kid’s childhoods.
There’s also a common argument that the invalidation is actually just a form of trauma, but personally I ascribe to the furthering of that train of thought that BPD is just a specific and particularly complicated form of PTSD.
In the end through you can’t deny that it often results in some people that take a lot more emotional energy to interact with than your average person, and that society often makes it really hard to budget our energy in ways that allow us to give it to them.
I don’t have a solution to that problem, at least not one I can explain in more than the next few paragraphs. I just hope pointing out that that’s what the problem is helps people reframe their frustrations in a way that’s more constructive.
I have tried working on !DIYMentalHealth@lemmy.dbzer0.com if anyone is interested in specific mental health tips, but I’m still in the process of… building the community I guess? I’m not much of a fighter so most of my contribution to a better tomorrow will probably be in helping the people who are good at that kind of thing stay healthier themselves.
That’s quite interesting, I’ve always enjoyed learning more about how humans think and why they think certain ways. I will say though this does make sense, though some of the kids who’s parents actually understood, (remember anyone young today, this was a drastically more “under the rug” thing back before 2015ish) and supported them, those were the most messed up ones. To be fair though, that’s probably just due to my town being an absolute anomaly.
We were known for being kinda… Weird, compared to the surrounding towns
‘Traipsing aroubd’
Do you mean walking? Walking around?
Absolutely not. We traipsed. Exclusively.